Intended Parents FAQ

  • Where do you recruit for Gestational Surrogates?
  • Where do you recruit for Gestational Surrogates?
  • What happens if the surrogate does not get pregnant or there is a miscarriage?
  • What is Footsteps to Family role?
  • How much does this cost?
  • What if the surrogate wants to keep my baby?
  • Can I still use my physician if I find a surrogate through you?
  • How long will I have to wait to be matched?

Here are the most common questions to us from those who want to participate in our Intended Parents program. Please read our FAQs for Intended Parents and call us or email us if you need some information that is not answered in this FAQ page.

Where do you recruit for Gestational Surrogates?

Footsteps to Family recruits nationally in “surrogate friendly” states. We advertise in community and parenting newspapers as well as periodicals. We also utilize the internet to reach some of our gestational surrogate candidates.
What kind of screening is required for the Gestational Surrogate?

We require all gestational surrogates to complete the application, supply her medical records, have an interview with a Footsteps Associate, submit to a background check, and consult with an independent psychologist for an evaluation. * All medical screening is completed after selection in preparation for the cycle and in accordance with the guidelines for your particular clinic.
How much does this cost?

The cost for using a gestational surrogate can vary depending on the contract that is negotiated between the gestational surrogate and the intended parents. Footsteps to Family will provide the intended parents with a compensation document which is specific for each gestational surrogate candidate. This document is presented along with the profile of the gestational surrogate. Once an Intended Parent is interested in retaining the services of Footsteps to Family, a retainer fee is paid. This amount paid is applied to the total agency fee. The remaining agency fee paid to Footsteps to Family is due in two installments. One half of the agency fee is submitted once a potential surrogate has been identified, prior to a match call being scheduled. The balance is due upon a successful match prior to releasing the identity of either party.
What happens if the surrogate does not get pregnant or there is a miscarriage?

More often than not, the number of times that the surrogate is willing to try for a pregnancy and birth is part of the negotiated terms in the contract. It is important to remember that as passionately as the intended parents want a child, the gestational surrogate is hopeful of fulfilling that dream for you. Please note that the agency fee, paid to Footsteps to Family is a one-time fee which can transfer from surrogate to surrogate. Should the intended parent wish to select another surrogate, or the surrogate does not wish to continue, Footsteps To Family will help match you with another gestational carrier once the proper steps have been taken to terminate the existing contract. This is done without having to pay any additional agency fees. Our fee will take an intended parent from surrogate selection through the birth of their baby(ies), regardless of the number of surrogates it takes to get you there!
What is Footsteps to Family role?

We can be thought of as your personal liaison throughout the entire process from matching, to IVF, to birth. Our responsibilities can include but are not limited to:

Matching our surrogates with suitable intended parents.
Assisting both parties in obtaining independent legal counsel.
Collection and dispersing of all funds to the gestational surrogate, as indicated by the contract.
Provide travel when needed for the surrogate.
Remain in contact with the clinic to ensure proper communication between the surrogate and the affiliated clinic.
Locating suitable health insurance and life insurance for the surrogate.
Provide assistance and support throughout the process.
Communicate between the parties when issues arise to keep the relationship safe

It is our job to manage the business side of the relationship so the intended parents and the gestational surrogate can focus on the incredible journey to parenthood.
What if the surrogate wants to keep my baby?

It is important to recognize that Footsteps has never managed a case where this has been an issue. Using a gestational surrogate instead of a traditional surrogate mitigates much of the legal concerns regarding relinquishment of the child to the intended parents. However, complete assurance regarding these types of situations cannot be guaranteed. Should an issue arise whereby the terms of the contract are questioned, the parties will need to enter into litigation where the ruling of parentage will be determined by the Court. We make every effort to recruit surrogates in states that are considered “surrogate friendly” and already have legislation honoring and protecting the integrity of the contract between the parties. In addition, many of our Intended Parents obtain a pre-birth order, where the court rules and issues a certificate of parentage prior to the birth of the child. This pre-birth order is then filed with the hospital to ensure that all parties are on the same page.
How long will I have to wait to be matched?

Footsteps to Family believes that matching intended parents with a suitable gestational surrogate is a highly personalized process. We make every effort to match parties by syncing their needs and desires. While there may be a list of available surrogates, we believe that it is more important to make a perfect fit, as opposed to a quick match. The matching process can occur within weeks. However, sometimes, depending on specific requirements, it can take longer.
Can I still use my physician if I find a surrogate through you?

Yes, you are able to use your physician for transfer as long as it is not in the state of New York, as surrogacy is illegal in this state. Unfortunately, embryo transfers to a paid gestational surrogate fall under this law.
* The fee for the surrogate’s psychological evaluation will be passed on to the Intended Parent after the match has been made and deducted from their expense reserve.

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